The Right Time?

So today is a rainy day and I have nothing to do. I considered writing a little today but nothing came to mind to write about until just a few minutes ago. I was scrolling through Facebook and ran across this picture...

Is it not amazing how something so simple can make you think of a million things. One sentence; four words, was all it took for me to wake up and smell the roses. If not now, when? So I have to ask myself why is it we put things off in life?

I have a very good friend who has always wanted kids. She found the love of her life twelve years ago and married nine years later. She has openly admitted to wanting kids but her husband is firm on his decision to wait until they are ready and prepared. I completely get that, having kids is a very big life change that you must be prepared for. But I am not sure how much more ready they can be. They both have established careers and though money is somewhat tight, they seem to manage just fine. Now my friend is on up there in age a bit and is now worried about being able to have them at all and if she does what the complications will be. So why not, go on and have a baby? Why wait any further? He still has the same reasons, "I just think we need to be prepared". So when is it going to be the right time? Is there a such thing as the right time?

I think there is a such thing as The Right Time. It just happens to be Right Now! Why wait? Why put things off? Life is about living and so why not go out there and live it? So you want to have a baby...go on and have it and enjoy that huge blessing in life. You want to fall in love but you keep fighting it off? Why? Let go and let what happens happen. From personal experience, it is amazing to give in and love! You want to get married but don't think it is the right time, well tell me when the right time is? If you are already thinking about wanting to marry the person you are with then obviously there is something there that is not ever going to go away. Grab hold and do not let go of that passion. Why wait, what are you waiting for? If not now, when? Have you been planning a special trip or vacation but keep putting it off for this reason or that? Why? Why are you torturing yourself? Get of my blog, type in the address bar your preferred airline and buy those tickets right now! It is the perfect time, so go for it!

Life is so short, there is not enough time to experience everything this world has to offer. We only make it worse by putting things off and waiting for The Right Time. So give up, give in, and start living life Right Now!!!!

Fate

So, you know that moment when your walking down the sidewalk looking all fine in your little red dress and stilettos and you happen across that super sexy, I mean underwear model material, man.  Now wouldn't you know that fate works magic people. At the exact moment you get right beside this god f a man, one of your heals breaks but as you begin to fall sideways he happens to catch you and help you back up. Now if that wasn't enough, this thing called fate has more in store for you. When you regain your composer as he stands holding you as if he is your guardian angel you happen to make eye contact and bam, you both fall madly in love and live happily ever after. Who doesn't love fate, right? Yeah right, because there are only a select few in this world that have this kind of luck and most of them are celebrities and this only happens in the movies they star in. So do we, as normal people, really have fate looking out for us in this area of life?

I have to be honest, I am a firm believer in fate. However, fate works a bit different for me. For example... take the scenario above. Now if you know me very well you would know that this chicky would never be caught wearing a little red dress, maybe a black one or a pink one but never red. Also, I can barely walk from point A to point B in flats without tripping over my own feet so there is no way in hell I would wear anything with a heal on them. So that fact alone kills everything above, thus it would never happen to me. Nonetheless, I must start from the beginning and tell the story of how fate works for us real people, so here goes nothing.

Its about mid-day on your day off and you suddenly remember that you had that errand to run that you have been putting off for about three weeks. Ah, what the heck, you might as well go and get it done. You run out the door quickly before you change your mind and begin the long walk down the sidewalk towards your destination. Your not in a bad mood so you have a little pep in your step and your are really making head way. Thinking about that puts a smile on your face! You are now in a great mood because you are proud of yourself. You turn the corner of a building and immediately bump into something hard. You try to keep your head down as you realize that you just ran into someone and are completely embarrassed when you notice that you forgot to change out of your pajamas and now you are even more humiliated. You mumble your apologies with your head still down and try to maneuver around them but it gets even more awkward because the other person is doing the same thing and now you are caught doing the two step tango! Wow, could things get much worse? This goes on for a minute and you brave a glance up to see who this person is playing this sick game with you. And then it happens, eye contact. Not with a god of a man but with a man. Not ugly though, no not ugly at all actually then he smiles and your breathing stops for a split second and you think, Wow he is perfect. He says sorry for the trouble and you nod but no words come from your mouth. All you can do is keep staring. He notices and strikes up a random conversation. Eventually this leads to a date the following week and BAM, little thing called LOOOOOOVE happens! And it was all accomplished while looking your worst in the most unexpected place. Fate baby!

Now, I don know about you but I would believe the second story if a complete stranger walked up to me and told me that this was how they met their significant other, wouldn't you? So this proves fate does in fact work for us real people! Not really, but let me think I am the all great philosopher and that I proved a great point in the debate on fate, okay! Give me this one...

I have sincerely missed all of my loyal followers and look forward to the emails on this one. I will try my best to not be absent like I have been recently! XoXo

Time Travel?

What if we could go back in time? I have heard this question a million times, hell, there are even people that have tried and are trying to build time machines. So, knowing this makes anyone begin to wonder what they would do if they were given the chance to time travel. Would you go forward and see what life will be like in the future? Would you go back to a time in the past that you think you would have loved to have been a part of? Or would you go back to the recent post and change some things in your own life then fast forward to the present or the future to see how it all played out? These are all really good questions, I think. Here is my take on things.

If I was given a time machine; I would give it back! As much as I love history there is no way I would want to go back and live it. Shit was way to hard back then with way to many rules. Yes, I'm lazy like that. I certainly don't want to go back and change recent past because in my head I have a ton of things I think I could have done differently. However, if even one of those things were changed or turned out differently them I wouldn't be where I am at today. And I'm happy. Confused and lost and struggling to make it day to day but I'm happy. I also have no need to know my future. God knows that and I have faith in him to have that under control. I leave that with him. So I have no need for a time machine. I like making my mistakes. I like living my life with a thousand questions because of the challenging part of it. Without the challenges, I would be bored.

So what do all of you think? Would you want to use a time machine or not?

Love Me for Me

Where I have gone? Every now and then I find scattered pieces of myself hidden here and there and when I reach out and grab them I get a few minutes of myself back but then it all fades away and I'm back on the hunt. I wish I could show everyone what I'm really made of. There is a lot going on in this head of mine and I can't seem to get it out. I just want to be me, loved and respected for my actions and my thoughts. Where have I gone?

What Is Your Favorite Book?

 

What is your favorite book? I have been asked this questions more times than I can honestly count and every time I am asked I struggle to answer. It is the one question I dread most. It seems every day my answer will change. So as I thought about this dilemma more I came to a conclusion that I think makes perfect sense.

I have read thousands of books, and I have a perfect memory of all of them. So this gives me over a thousand books to choose from when someone asks me the question I dread most. What I think happens, however, is my mood decides my answer. So for example, if one day I am feeling downright evil and angry, then I might answer with a Stephen King book such as Insomnia or this one book called Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher. If I am feeling adventurous that day, then perhaps my answer would more than likely be After Forever Ends by Melodie Ramone or one of my all-time favorites The Secret Life of Walter Mitty by James Thurber. This can go on and on with every type of mood or feeling I could ever think of having, so I will spare you all the details this time. Even so, hopefully you catch what I am trying to say here.

Now do not get me wrong, I certainly have my set few choices of top personal favorites. Most of them are classics like Ivanhoe by Walter Scott, Ethan Frome by MS Edith Wharton, Emma by Jane Austen, and Jude the Obscure by Thomas Hardy. What can I say; I must be one of those hopeless romantics I love to make fun of. What I cannot help but wonder is this; does this happen to everyone or is it just me? If someone comes up to you and asks you what your favorite book is, do you have to think about it for a few minutes or do you know the answer right off the top of your head? Better yet, do you have more than one favorite book or do you have a terrible time picking from the many you love? I am intrigued now so help me cure my curiosity.    

Links you may enjoy:
http://www.goodreads.com/
    

Have I Found My Prince Charming?

Most every girl on this planet would give anything to find true love. We dream about it when we are little girls and as young adults it almost becomes our focus in life. Do not get me wrong, there are some females out there that are the exception but they are far and few between. But is it a real possibility to find that prince charming that sweeps us off our feet and gives us our happily ever after?
In my personal opinion I think it is possible to find prince charming, however, he is not going to be like what we see in the movies. In fact, I think it is fair to say that some of those well know Disney movies that we watched as little girls brain washed us into thinking that life was going to be a magical place once we were grown. As we get older these dreams get worse and once again we watch movies like The Notebook and Sleepless in Seattle and wish for our Noah to come and take our breath away. Only making matters worse are all the love songs we hear, basically on repeat, on the radio. For instance, there is a new song out by John Legend called All of Me that is in all reality a pretty song and he sings about everything a girl would ever want to hear. I mean come on, what girl would not love to hear her man say, I will give you all of me. But we as women must face the facts. There is not a single man out there that is going to be willing to give you all of him!

No, we will never get our happily ever after if we keep it in our heads that it is going to be like what we see on the television, movies, and hear on the radio. However, if we can get those images out of our head we can find true love and happiness so there is still hope. For instance, Johnny Cash was a drunk and drug addict that was once divorced and in a state of disrepair when he met June Carter. Did she see him and think to herself this is no prince charming so I will pass?  Hell no, she took one look at him and just knew he was her kind of perfect. With her help, Jonny Cash cleaned himself up and turned his life around and as most of us know they loved each other until the end of their lives. After June’s death, Mr. Cash grieved himself to death basically. I mean, who hasn’t heard the expression I want a love like Johnny and June. Heck, there is even a song out by that title. Now tell me guys is that love or what?

I am no expert in love and I have failed a few times in the past but I think I found my prince charming. At least I am hoping I have. He doesn’t look like what one would expect a prince charming to look like with his beard and tattoos and even his attitude comes across as a hard ass. He is a smart ass and I may even go so far as to say a know it all and quite cocky! But he is perfect! He makes me smile and laugh non-stop. He is super sweet and doesn’t mind a single bit going out of his way to make my life better. One hug from him makes all my worries fade away and one single light kiss to the neck makes me not remember my own name. When he picks on me I get so irritated but at the same time I would miss it so much if he quit. These things are what one would call puppy love I suppose. Maybe it is and maybe it isn’t. All I know is he makes me want to be a better person and makes my heart skip a beat. I am truly happy with my life and he kinda completes it. For me, that is my prince charming. So in conclusion, do not pass up on a person because of their past or what they may look like because they could be your prince charming.

Dreams

At the top of a hill in the middle of an open field she stands there. Her feet planted firmly on the ground, and her arms stretched out wide up above her head towards the sky. Her eyes closed, the wind gently blowing all around her, and the sun beating down on her skin; she stands soaking up the energy surrounding her. The only movement she makes is the rise and fall of her chest as she breaths in the crisp fresh air and the occasional wiggle of her long skinny fingers. She clears her mind and focuses hard on her wishes and dreams. She had lost all of her will and strength over the years. Determined to set things right, she stood there trying to come to peace with all that had occurred and wishing for a better future. She stood there completely still like that for hours. The sun had gone to sleep and was just now waking up when she finally felt the peace she had come for. Slowly, she let her arms fall to her sides and opened her eyes. With a smile upon her face, she looked out into the distance and said good-bye to her past. She turned towards the horizon with a new look on life and came face to face with her happiness! Never had something looked as good to her in all her life as he did standing there in the distance. She smiled and happily made her way to his side.

Written by and Sole Owner: Desirae Bennett

Picture Credits:

http://nature.desktopnexus.com/wallpaper/1140063/